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Monday, June 17, 2013

My Frister.


 
My favorite picture of Kay
Fr-ister (Friend+Sister) is a name that Kay and I came up with to describe our relationship.  She was also a neighbor, comic, creative, gifted, generous, and an entire alphabet soup of wonderful adjectives.  We lost her in a freak accident on the evening of June 13.  To say it was devastating is such an understatement.  It was a sucker punch in the gut. 

Kay was a sweet onion of a woman.  An exuberant package of many layers.  She went at everything full-tilt with such a huge amount of enthusiasm that you couldn't help but be swept along.  She made everything seem more exciting.  She was equal parts outspoken, creative, infuriating, funny, and talented.  She had a lovely singing voice.  Kay possessed a sharp mind and a tender heart.  She clothed numerous babies in beautifully knitted garments, as well as gifting her family and friends.  Her generosity was boundless and never-ending.  The number of lives she touched with her wonderful self is really astounding.

Kay with Phoebe I
When I had shoulder surgery, Kay arrived every morning (and she was NOT a morning person) ready to take over my farm chores.  And she repeated the process every morning and evening for a week.  When she entered a room, she was an explosion of bags of knitting projects, purse, keys -- she was so alive! And now that she is gone, the whole world seems to be off-kilter.  She was so completely integrated into my life that I feel as if I have lost a physical part of myself.  I don't know what I will do without her.

Kay left behind a husband, two children, five grandchildren, a large extended family, countless friends who were like family, and even more people whose lives she touched and who loved her for it.  If you met her, there is no way you could ever forget her.  Nor would you want to.  My heart, love and prayers go out to her family.  I love you, my Frister.

16 comments:

  1. My heart is heavy for you. Folks like her set a good example for the rest of us.

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  2. Beautiful tribute with beautiful pictures. How could one not smile when seeing that last one? Some people leave a hole that cannot be filled in the hearts of those they've touched. I've thought of you and Kay and her family many times this past weekend and am praying that your wonderful memories of her will enable you to begin the healing.

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  3. What a great friend, prayers for comfort.

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  4. My heart breaks for you. Praying for you & your family's comfort to ease the pain, even if for just a bit.

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  5. What a wonderful testament to her. My heart goes out to you. She sounds like she was a real gift.

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  6. Oh my, I'm sorry you lost your wonderful Frister, Kay. Not having met her, I can only imagine how great a friend she was to you. Sending soothing thoughts out to you and her family for peace. But thank you for sharing this tribute of her with us.

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  7. That was beautiful.

    My heart is aching for you. I am so, so sorry for your loss. And for her family as well. I wish you all peace in your healing.

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  8. Oh, I'm so sorry about your loss. What a lovely, lovely tribute. Sounds like the perfect friend, the perfect sister.

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  9. Love, hugs and prayers go out to you and her family. May God ease the healing, and may you never forget her. Beautiful tribute.

    (((((Hugs)))))
    Yvette

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  10. I'm so very sorry about the loss of your dear friend. I, too, so suddenly lost a life-long friend, Mollie, on May 15th & wrote about her on my blog, too. Praying for you & her family.

    Blessings from Ohio, Kim<><

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  11. Oh, Susan. I am so sorry that you've lost a piece of your heart. Wish I could make things better for you somehow. Know you're being hugged closely. My thoughts and prayers for all of you in Kay's family.

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  12. Your Frister sounds like a wonderful person, all warmth and light. I have found honoring loved ones by remembering them in the simple pleasures of life to be very comforting.

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  13. I have a couple of fristers too and cannot imagine what I would do without them. My thoughts are with you and her family.

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  14. I'm sorry for the loss, for you and her family. This was a wonderful tribute to someone who was obviously loved very much and will be missed. Hugs to you dear Susan.

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