|Maybe she sneezed...|
That got me thinking about how what I say can have either a negative or positive spin to it. "Needs Work" makes me think that I am belittling C's new egg-laying efforts. If I said her egg-laying is a Work in Progress, that connotes she will be doing much better in no time. She's working towards greater (bigger) things.
I have had people tell me that they like to be around me because I am so positive. Let me tell you, I am not, naturally, a positive person. Far from it. I have struggled with depression and low self-esteem most of my life. I am cynical. I am sarcastic. BUT, somewhere along the zig-zaggy line of my trajectory through life, I realized that being positive was much better for me. If I took a positive view of everything that I could, I would be happier. I would be healthier. I would be much better company. As the years progressed, it did become easier to be positive (although it has been a major slog since last November) and it is one of the few good habits I have stuck to. There are times when the cynicism and sarcasm bubbles to the top but, then, who wants to be stuck in positive all the time? I'd rather be an onion than a daisy.
Speaking of conundrums (were we?), why is it that I can come up with a clever way to keep my torn tea bag from leaking leaf debris in my tea cup, but I can't remember why I was in the laundry room?