Wednesday, February 3, 2016
Hugger or Non-Hugger?
My parents were not physically demonstrative when I was a kid. Nor when I was a teenager - which, quite frankly, I totally get, as I was not lovable as a teenager. I was a total pain in the beehind. This makes me wonder why I am such a complete and utter hugger. Maybe it was because of the Rosarios, a classmate's Italian family that forced you to be buffeted through a chorus line of hugs and kisses both coming in and going out of their front door (and again, at random, while in their house). As a child, it was both terrifying and thrilling. There was a whole lotta demonstrative-ness in that house.
I have developed into a serial hugger. It makes no difference whether you are the huggable type or not. Of course, should someone screech and jump back as I approach, I will pick up on that and desist. Reluctantly. A relatively new friend is rather stiff and formal and, initially, took my hugs as an assault. I am chipping away the aloof exterior, one hug at a time. I noticed this weekend that she was not as ramrod stiff as she usually is, sagging slightly in my grasp. It could, I suppose, been out of sheer terror. :)
I remember my BIL giving my dad a huge hug. Lawsy, I wish I had had a camera at that moment. My father, stiff as a board, in the embrace of his SIL, rapidly patting him on the shoulder while his eyes darted from side to side, seeking an avenue of escape.
Before you think I am some sappy nutjob who flings herself on everyone she meets, hugging her way through the crowd, this is not the case. There are definitely some people upon whom I would not bestow a hug. Politicians, for instance. Most of the people on my street. No one in my office. No one in my office building. Law enforcement officers. People who mistreat animals, children and senior citizens.
Everyone else? Brace yourself.
What say you? Hugger or Non?